Helped me not to sweat the irrelevant stuff. We remember. Yes it is exhausting and sticky. But it is also fun and fleeting. I have few regrets about that time precisely because I sensed that the wisdom of those who went before me was worth listening to. Why be so negative?
I was that person 30 years ago. I ended up with three kids…. I found I am not a baby person. I like kids 3 yrs and older. Not a bad thing but they became more fun later at least for me. Absolutely spot on, never a truer word spoken. Thank you for sharing this and thank you for brightening up my day at work. I could just kiss you. I only have one child, a three-year-old daughter, and let me tell you… I have no idea how people have multiples of these things. I love my daughter dearly, I know that my husband and I are amazing parents to her, but yes. We find ourselves scrutinizing our every move instead of just living and being ourselves as individuals.
Well written. I have tears in my eyes as I write this! I had this conversation with a dear friend earlier today…We were chatting in the produce dept of our local grocery store. Thanks for writing, so eloquently, what we all feel! Nobody warned me motherhood was like this, Alternate moments of anguish and bliss. Beautifully written, a few genuine laugh-out-loud moments in there, thanks. Perspective is all and with three under tens in out house I can see the similarities.
As a mother of 5 kids under 11 with 4 being boys , I actually cried when I read this. I always feel guilty for thinking negative thoughts about being a stay-at-home mom when I am having a chaotic day. We got it- We know- Now, please stop telling us!!!!! I completely agree with you Kim. My kids are all grown now and I always tell young parents to cherish every moment because I wish so much that I had spent less time moaning about being a parent and more time cherishing the blessing that it is.
I was a single parent with no support at all. I babysat and cleaned houses so I could stay home with them until they were in school and that meant i had my kids and other peoples kids too! I stopped feeling so sorry for myself and decided to stop complaining and start laughing more.. I stopped taking everything so seriously and learned to enjoy my kids and love my life. I know that there is no possible way for young parents to understand how much they will miss these years with their kids..
Thank you for this article again specially now that we are preparing for the next one. They are special and well worth the lack of sleep and sometimes frustration! I have never said it lol I always offer to take the kids for the day or ill stay and keep them out of mums hair so she can have a breather! I am one of these people that have a gift with kids so I use this gift to help my sisters at times they need it!
This is great!! I agree with the idea that parents cannot and should not have to enjoy every moment of parenting. Kids are a huge challenge that bring lots of joy, but also lots of frustration. Jeff, I hear ya. Sorry, not being a parent disqualifies you from having an opinion.
If you never ever become frustrated by anything the most annoying adult you know says or does then you might, just might, go through parenting without a little moan once in a while. As a parent, I completely agree with Jeff. Not being a parent absolutely does not disqualify him from recognizing that the way we talk about our kids is important. It even shapes our own minds and the way we think about them.
Yeah, I get frustrated, and yes, I have limits. But I am not going to hop on Facebook and talk about how my life is somehow worse because I have them. Oh, bull. Jeff- no kids, no idea, no opinion! Only parents can truly understand this feeling. I began by nodding my head to this post and ended it with tears in my eyes. Thank you from a bone tired mum or three under six who would right now give anything to sleep for more than two and a half hours in a row.
I have a severely disabled, non-verbal child and a typically developing toddler. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I laughed and I cried as I read your blog. The same way I laughed and I cried as we raised our 4 kids, sometimes with fingers crossed and breath held just hoping for the best. Let me give you my short list. Everyone else appreciates it. And at the grocery store they may even put it back in the refrigerated section for you to pick up later.
It only took my kids 3 times once in Target and twice at the grocery store to realize that I would not be held hostage to their tantrums. They really do learn pretty fast. Your job is to raise them to be loving, resposible, independent adults. You can be their friend THEN. Enjoy every moment? Are they nuts?? Remember the good times and hold on to those like a safety line.
I had a camera on top of my refrigerator at ALL TIMES with batteries fully charged in the camera and flash because I knew somehow I think God whispered in my ear that the fun, loving, amazing times can get suffocated by the Other Times. This too, shall pass. If parenting was easy everyone could do it. Never pray for patience.
God will make sure you get lots of practice…because practice makes perfect. Know that you could never get paid enough for this job. And it is a job. But you could also never get paid enough to give it up. Because it is a dream like no other. And sometimes we remember the bad parts of dreams longer than the good. Good luck. And I believe there is some measure of luck involved otherwise known as Quiet God Interventions. And know that this time in your life, when your children are living at home, WILL actually be over before you know it. Its sometimes what allowed us to survive.
And when they move out? They always knew that they had a safe haven that they could move back IN to. And every time they moved back in they got a smaller room. Yes, Candy!! The only thing I would add is, be consistent. Make sure your kids know the answer before they even ask the question. Your list is spot on. Yes, and accept that you will sit out on the cold curb with each child at least once while everyone else enjoys their meal in peace at the eatery.
They will learn to be civil in public eating places, but they have to learn that they get nothing behaving that way and they do not get their meal served again at home later either. No one has starved to death skipping one meal due to their tantrum, but they will remember to think twice before throwing a fit next time you eat out. Once home, they go to their room while you eat in peace, locked in the master closet if you must because you deserve a peaceful meal once in a while. Feeling like I have way too much to work on as a parent right now, I went surfing.
I really appreciated hearing both the humor and reality in your article. I know all these things in my heart, and I AM a good parent, but today I feel so inadequate. Yours was calming and accepting. Thank you so much for this post. I laughed, I agreed, I commiserated. Every word resonated with us! LOVED this post. I only have one and I feel like this. I commend all the parents out there that have more children. Thank you thank you thank you.
I liked this article very much! It is how I feel most days. My husband and I have 5 boys under the age of 8. It can be crazy and amazing but also very exhausting and I lose heart sometimes. Just saying…. I was unsympathetic to your plight until I read that you are the father of three boys under five incredible! Rule from a position of confidence, firmness, and calmness. Keep them organized under a calm, peaceful, and loving regime of rules a basic few and consequences Both positive rewards and negative sanctions.
Enforce the rules consistently and indifferently. You are merely the scorekeeper and the enforcer of the rules. It is they who are creating their own destinies. Make sure you carve out a life for yourself with your own time and activities that they need to respect and do the same for them. If you follow this advice you will not even think, much less verbalize, inflicting them with water and panic.
Enjoy the position of father that God has entrusted you with. He is at your side. Because even when maintaining masterful poise and calm, enforcing discipline is not enjoyable and will not always circumvent meltdowns and screaming. How did I miss it? I am not merely a scorekeeper! We are intricately and intimately linked with our children and their lives.
Nice post. You do need to have a point of reference from which you can see with some degree of objectivity. Men seem to be able to do this more easily than women. Raising kids is a challenge, a privilege and a blessing. It is, however, much easier and more enjoyable if done with ground rules, consistency, love and forgiveness. Of course we all know that rules need to be enforced and followed through with.
Because children are gonna fight them. And in those times I pray…hard! A new subscriber. Thanks for keeping it real. Amazingly well said! Loved the under water bit! Made me laugh out loud because it is so close to the truth. Thank you for reminding us that we are not alone and that it is okay to be human.
Mostly thank you for you honesty! Thanks Steve. Your story tells one I know. Wow, did I need to read this today! A few years ago, my sister and her kids moved in with me, and I became like the second parent. Then, last year, I lost my job and became a full-time, stay-at-home Auntie. So now I am raising year-old and 4-year-old girls, and I lock myself in the bathroom so that I can have five minutes of peace. I say to my husband all of the time.
Thanks for the great post! Kids 5. I so laughed on the perfect parent and the wine part because I never drank before! Thanks again! I hear you; I feel the clenching as you hear, again, the same inane, impossible demand to enjoy. Please look at it from another perspective. The other person is not thinking of you; they look at you and your kids wistfully, regretfully, wishing they could go back and do it better. Maybe I can encourage a young parent to be happier, less frantic.
If only I could let them know how important it is to savour this…. But then the days are gone. I try to find good moments — not to love them all, but to focus on and try to create some good moments every day.
I struggled with infertility for 6 years of my 11 year marriage. Thank you for writing this. And yes, I cried when I read it. Everything you wrote is so spot on. I love this so much! Thank for writing this!!! I had 4 under 5, the oldest is now still only 6. My children have given me more love, joy and education than anything ever before; but they have also given me more anger, hatred,sadness and guilt than anything.
Mine are grown, now, but having been the mom of four preschoolers at once.. Again, thank you! The most important job we will ever have is being a mom! Your kids need you more than your boss. We can show you how! I dont believe parents with older children say it to make you feel bad. The fact is when you are in the middle of it you dont realize how quickly it goes by until one day they suddenly arent little anymore and you find yourself missing that. My beautiful 16 year old daughter was killed in august on her way home from school. She was hit by an impaired driver.
One minute she was fine, the next she was gone. I also have a 2 year old. By the time the 2 year old got here, I had so much more patience, and things are different when you get a little older. So, from a mom who lost her child, I promise you that it does go by too fast, and in one of those pull your hair out moments, stop and take a minute to be grateful you have these babies. I have been there too, and it all makes memories, but children really are a blessing. And I would do anything in the world to have my daughter back, even to argue with her again.
I have a 15 year old daughter. Reading your comment was heart breaking. From the perspective of a mother with teens…I see you moms with your little ones and I have not forgotten how stressful those days were. I cried a lot. I felt even more isolated because of that I think.
Now that my kids are teenagers, I look back at home videos and pictures and see those cute little people and I miss them. I am so thankful I have those videos and pictures to remind me that there were many good and cherished moments mixed in there. Your perspective changes as you get further down the parenting-road. Now that I have a daughter on the brink of leaving home, I am soaking in every moment more than ever before. Where did the time go? Well, it was spent living life the best we could.
Pouring every ounce of energy we had into these little lives that are now getting ready to fly out on their own. They are ready because we did our job. Not perfectly, but the love outweighs the mistakes…good thing there is lots of love! I am still in the thick of parenting as the challenges of teens are a whole new ball game. It is helpful though, to know how quickly the time does go now, and that I just have to live day by day, doing the best I can, as God carries and guides me through it.
So, do I want to be the mother of toddlers again…. Do I miss those little people…. Each stage has it stresses and joys. Depending on your personality, you will enjoy certain stages more than others. I am loving the stage of life I am in with my kids. I can imagine, though, how much fun it is to be a grandparent. You get to do it this time in shorter intervals, well rested and with a clean house. I have memories of feeling stressed and overwhelmed. And then I go sorting through my old photos and I long for those days again so I can cherish the time in ways I never did.
I too am trying to savor each moment before my oldest leaves the nest in two years. That post just made my day! So good to hear someone with a rational view on parenting. Everything you say is SO true. I know just what you mean. And they were. And are. Thank you!!!! I have three children, 10, 8 and almost 3.
My first two were perfect I tell you. I am so sharing this with everyone and please, stop saying they grow up so fast. Some days I really wish they would!!! As a mom of three little ones under 7, I feel this blog post hit everything I feel and I know a lot of parents feel but wont say. I co-run a fan page called Supportive Mamas. Looks like it is time for all parents to want to sock someone. Seriously, the moment you let go of the pressure to be the ideal parent, the world becomes a better place.
You took the thoughts and words right out of my mouth on some things. Beautifully written on both blogs- parenting and infertility. I am also a parent of 3 boys under the age of 5 and also had infertility issues. Inspiring and refreshing. Great work! I think those of us who have 3 boys under the age of five need to give each other some sort of secret awards. Dude… I can totally empathize with life. God bless. I was a stay at home mom and my husband worked 2 jobs to keep us afloat. The only problem is that he was never home. Our 2 young children and I spent many hours together in our small home.
Some days the kids would be immersed in pretend play but many days they were whining, fighting and just making me a crazy woman. Everybody knows how to change your parenting and have perfect children. There is no such thing as a perfect child. And then they become teens. We had to have collision work on the cars after they became drivers. Think about things you did when you were a teen! This world is very scary and we all know anything can happen. More kids are facing bullies, emotional and mental health issues and so much stress.
These are the times you wish they were young again. At least you had control and could keep them safe. There is so much pressure on kids now that the day mat come when one of your precious children decides things are too overwhelming and removes himself from our world. In an instant you yearn for those chaotic days when they were toddlers when you could keep them safe. Peanut butter on the sofa and constant noise turn into cherished memories.
Believe me one day you will laugh at these things although you may not see it now. Teach your children respect, good morals and how to make good decisions. Hopefully that will get them through life. But you should know that even the best parents may find themselves yearning to have just one more day to love them. My children are five and seven. Things are better now. When they were 1 and 3 I was massively depressed, desperate and even began to cut myself like a teenager.
I am never going to cherish those memories. The past looks better to us because we only think about the good parts and not the bad. So well said! But of course, I know that one, six or any amount of children is a challenge. That shock when you bring the second one into the world and start to get situated at home is, well, truly eye opening.
Anyway, thanks for this amazingly well written article. Us parents need these reminders sometimes. It is only in this past few years that I have grandchildren and know that my children know that there is no such thing as a perfect parent, and they have it much easier than I ever did, do I allow myself to work on ridding myself from the burden of guilt that plagued me for so many years. Nothing was easy, but we made it and we even managed to make some good memories along the way. We were never meant to be. Three children under six.
All fostered and then adopted. Too tired to write, but just wanted to thank you. I read this post every couple of days just to encourage myself. From parents everywhere…thank you. As the parent of teenager AND toddlers especially my toddlers! I can also relate to how quickly time passes and how important it is to treasure the moments. Because, even the bad ones are precious eventually. It is motivated by the realization that as exhausting and unpleasant the early years of parenting can be, they really are very precious.
Not all stories have happy endings. Every moment is so precious; tears, tantrums, and unfinished tasks included. I agree completely. I posted a comment from the perspective of a mother with teenagers. Parents of toddlers will see it someday too just like we do. Great article, thank you for writing what so many think, and for doing it in a very humorous way. Amen, brother.
When my boy was born, everybody bombarded me with that little gem of a saying, and I felt like ever moment that I was not admiring him was a moment wasted. I finally had a mini breakdown and told everybody to STOP saying that to me. Now, I really can enjoy the good moments and am ok with not enjoying the screaming tantrums. Thanks for a great article. No offense. This piece is so touching. Again, no offense. You can make it, I did. Sounds like some advice that I could have used when I was raising my twins girls who are now Well meaning people put us through all kinds of guilt trips.
People can relate to this. People need to hear this. So thank you! Thanks Brea — and I agree — we all need the permission to be imperfect. Thanks so much for the encouragement! This was honest and real. Which is what parenting should be. We should stop telling everyone that our marriage is great, our kids are amazing and perfect, and life is wonderful all the time.
It is nice to hear someone be real. Give yourself a break. Not always true on this, sad to say! Sometimes, people are just evil or make very very poor choices. You cannot judge parents by whether their kids are in jail! Look at the Boston Bombings.
Two suspects in their twenties… Parents and siblings could be the sweetest people on earth who taught their children how to be responsible growing up, have morals, believe in themselves, share god etc…. Thank you for this reminder. I know it in my head, but it makes my heart feel better to hear it from someone else too. I need that. My husband and I also endured years of infertility, and have now found ourselves with four boys: a 5 year old, twin 3 year olds, and an 11 month old.
Some days — many days — are tough. I am grateful every day to have them, but like you said, I am a person and I have limits. When people tell you to enjoy your children while they are young, please accept that admonition in the spirit it is given. Give some grace! I have said that to young parents many times myself, although I will hesitate in the future!!
By no means does saying that imply that I did everything perfectly, nor did I literally enjoy every second of raising my 4 children, who were born in a span of 6 years. What you cannot possibly know is what lies in the future in regard to child rearing. At this point in time, you are physically exhausted. The issues you face are of such greater consequence as your children grow older, and the pain of watching your teens or older suffer consequences of their poor choices can be unimaginable to you at the stage you are in now. It stems from precious memories of years gone by; gone by way too fast!
VJLindsey, I think your comment is spot on. The only addendum I think it needs is that everyone expects teenagers to be a giant hassle. That they will not only make huge mistakes, massively poor decisions, harm themselves — seemingly through intention, and generally cause you to approach clinical insanity. All the while, they may not much care for your presence and let you know this on a regular basis as they push for more independence.
It is not that those of us like myself with a 5 and 3 year old believe that we will have it easier later, in fact, I think the opposite, especially considering I am still in a phase that my kids believe I am still somewhat awesome. The only difference is most people know that the teenage years are difficult and believe that the young years are always great. Perhaps I will think the same way when both I and my kids are older. Steve, your story made me feel human for having such occasions.
The holding underwater just to the point of panic comment is hilarious. I appreciate this article more than you know. I am so tired of people telling me to enjoy them now — I DO — but can I please also enjoy a moment in the bathroom without demands for my cell phone games? For the record…. My two kids are teens now. I remember not too long ago when they were toddlers and doing what little kids are good at—-driving their parents crazy sometimes.
What I found very important is to establish rules early and be tough. Whenever they fell of course not really hurting and cried looking pitiful and expecting help to get up. I enjoyed your piece. I am a grandmother now of 3 and 1 more on the way but I was a mother who left a 6 figure salary and a job I loved to raise my 3 children who are adopted.
I became a mother of 3 within 5 months. My son is the oldest and my girls were 15 months apart I had 3 children under the age of 3. You just have to get a little creative at times and think like a child what things that they would like. We had been married 10 years before these children came and I have never regretted leaving my job to stay home and raise my children.
I am over whelmed now when my children are all home at the same time and talk about all the things we did when they were younger. I am so proud of my daughter when I watch her with her child do the same things I did with her my other two children. The laundry, housework and other chores will always be there waiting but my children were only little once and I did not want to miss out on anything.
I think alot of young parents today read too many of the parenting books — children do not come with instructions or guides they need to take a deep breath and breathe and remember how their parents raised them. I feel so validated after reading this. Not only do I have the challenge of my own girls ages 2 and 5, but add in my nephew at 4. There are other women who do this with such apparent ease.
I should be able to do this. I feed them nutritious food, allow them to watch a minimum of TV, play with them outside, take them on outings, and teach them good manners. Logically I know it will get better; but emotionally I want to slap that thought straight out of my own head. I have evolved into something I never would have imagined. It has taken me a month to read this blog that someone shared with me. As I finished it while the girls were eating breakfast at the table behind me , my five year old climbed into my lap for some snuggle time. I asked her if she had any idea how much I loved her.
They know they are loved and are happy little cherubs. Six months ago I left a promising career and six-figure income to be a stay at home mom — to do both the meaningful and the mundane of raising kids. Life of a working mom was crazy. The decision was made — I loved my job, but I loved my girls more. Many days I question if I made the right decision. In my heart, I know it was — my kids are happier, my husband is happier, even our dog is happier.
I work hard to ensure my girls are happy, well-mannered, disciplined as much toddlers can be , exposed to new situations and healthful meals, etc. I feel resentful, unfulfilled and even bored at times. My girls are 1 and 3, just 19 months apart. I missed my job for so long 4 years! This year I was looking for a part time paid something or another and my boys fell apart, and even the husband looked worried.
I had forgotten that I was literally the most important person in the lives of the 3 people I love the most. That will get me through the next tough times. Hang in there everyone. Just the kind of humor and encouragement I needed today. After scooping poop out of the armpits of a one month old for the 4th time in the last 12 hrs, then finding my 19 month old had helped himself to the chocolate in my baking drawer while I was cleaning up that diaper blow out, all while my hubby was loudly hammering out a wall upstairs as we renovate, I needed a good laugh! And I remember… When my nephew was born, I lived with him and his mom to help out while she was in school… He did that one night.
And one day you look back and laugh… maybe. Steve, thanks for writing this. Not enough people admit to these feelings. When my husband and I were new parents, the one piece of advice we would give our friends who were expecting was that there would come a time when they would be at their wits end and shaking a baby no long seemed like such an unthinkable thing.
We would assure them in advance that eveyone has these moments but no one admits to them. When that time came, they needed to just put the baby in their crib and walk away for a while. Let them cry, it would be ok. If they had a partner, this was the point where they needed to tag out of the ring and let them take over for a bit. Now that our boys are 7 and 5, we routinely ignore them and just pour a glass of wine. I think I need to read this post once a week every week until my son graduates college.
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I think I need to read this post at least once a week every week until my son graduates college. Wow, this all rings true. We all have that inner voice screaming inside while we parent through the tough moments yet we feel guilty as hell listening to that voice! As a parent of teenagers and one college-aged kid, they are more grown-up than your kids but now I deal with other angst! In reality though, I love them to bits, they are giving me and my husband grey hair and teenagers have a way of mentally beating your brain where your self esteem is constantly taking a beating.
We are just not that cool anymore. But watching our college aged daughter take flight with her own set of wings, after enduring those years, is such a joy. Parenting is a roller coaster, you have moments of excitement and moments of dread. But it made me a better person. I remember those eyes-hurting-from-exhaustion times, and it was at that time that I understood why sleep deprivation was used as a form of torture. I remember feeling jealous of people who got to go home and go to bed, knowing they could sleep all night. You will make it, and your kids will too. Someday you will sleep again.
I promise. I have been having a morning where I would like to tie my two small boys up. This made my morning and helped me breathe. Thank you for the great blog!!!! Boy, did reading this piece bring me back! We had no family within miles and no friends. I used to fantasize about sleep. But it just IS. And no one can prepare you for those endless, demoralizing days. Thank you for the encouragement! As a Dad to twin 5 year old girls, I needed to read this, and just read it out loud to my wife.
More please [big smile]. I agree- we put too much pressure on ourselves to have perfect children and to be perfect parents. Is this a statement said by someone who has never been there, or someone who has years of experience? But if you constantly want to be away, want them to be asleep, and consider injuring them because you are so frustrated…. Our society hates children. Look at the news- look at what a terrible parent really is, and forgive yourself your wekanesses…. Sometimes the only peace that you can find in a house full of children is the Peace the passes understanding.
Reading it actually made me cry with relief. Thank you for saying it all. I am actually crying after reading this post. Thanks so much for putting it into words. Well mine are girls but it all rings true. My life is chaos. Loved reading this, great post. Well, mine are girls but it all rings true. My sentiments exactly. Which leads me to believe how ignorant and uniformed these people are. At the very least, misinformed because of media and the internet. It was a different time back then. It was actually more dangerous. Crime rate was much higher then than it is now.
It only seems more prevalent now because we have technology. Back then all we had was newspaper, tv, and radio. Information was slow. Just the important ones. Now we have the internet, mobiles, computers. And most people stopped thinking for themselves. Common sense is pretty much an after thought, if at that. Paranoia sets in. Insecurities rise. Confidence falls. Children get lazy, they take on their parents fears and illogical notions. And when parents like you voice out the obvious. The logical. And the common sense. We are chastised.
Told we are bad parents. Up until this new fiasco, ten thousand years of civilization not including our ancestors long before that , have been raising children the same way. Teach them independence. Self preservation. Self sufficient. Children were taught to dust themselves off when they fell. That failure is ok. Eric, thanks for taking the time to so thoughtfully comment about your own experiences.
I love what you write about us needing failure to teach us what we need for life. So, so funny! My husband is Brian Hodson and he was reading this out loud to me last night. I told him to definitely share with me so I could be sure to follow your blog. I also laughed until I cried reading this today.
I think your message might be that thing for a LOT of people. Needed to hear this 10 yrs ago. My kids are now 15 and It would have been viewed as SO wrong to tell the truth like this back then. One point I wanted to make is about the exhaustion.
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I am 48, single, work FT, and I am tired. I commend those of you who started their family at a later age than myself, which i know has become more common. Given the level of energy needed, to be MY age with little ones? Must require even more vitamins, chocolate, and wine. Loved this post! So much encouragement! I forwarded it to my fellow weary parent friends.
This post touched a lot of people. And I am grateful for it. Another blogger wrote a post to say how wrong you were and I had to respond to her. I also, in that comment, linked back here so her readership could read for themselves before judging the author a terrible father and Christian.
Wasted effort, I suppose. I remember those days so well…we had three children in just under four years. I swear there are months of my life when things were so hectic that I have just blacked them out. You are right, just because it becomes too much at times does not make you a bad parent. What I do say is hang in there, it does get easier.
My youngest is 16 years old, and while we still have teenage angst to deal with, there is a semblance of normalcy to our lives. So very sorry, Lauren, that you lost out on the opportunity to enjoy your beautiful daughter all the rest of your life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with others. There will be horrible times. Please hang in there and keep doing the best you can. This world needs more parents just like all you wonderful people who have written about your joys and frustrations.
We do need to support one another! Reason to despair 2? I love it. Crawl under that bed! I always think back about my childhood, I lived under the communist times and I instantly feel better! At 7 we were going to school all alone, doing our homework alone, heating up our food and then playing outside with the other kids, always unsupervised! On top of that father was an alcoholic and violent and mother too tired, worried all the time about paying the bills and providing food for us that she could barely talk to us or take care of us.
Father used to beat us up for the wrong doings, that was his disciplinary method. Despite all these, I am a successful lawyer and my brother is a chemical engineer, we have survived, we r normal, we are happy! So do u still think u r not enough or that u r a bad parent?
Please think twice before u answer! At the end of the day u r enough, your children need affection, love, praise, encouragement! Have fun while being a parent and do not identify yourself so much with the role! Be your own person and accept your limitations and embrace the time u get to be alone, u deserve it! Thank you!! Thank you!!! You are writing about MY life!! This is exactly what God is trying to teach me right now.
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