This was my rock bottom moment. In retrospect, this wrath of emotion had little to do with Zander, per se. It was more of a delayed reaction to the loss of my marriage, and many past breakups that also ended in similar histrionics. Somehow in the throws of hysteria, I had a moment of clarity: This was a pattern that must stop. Having him come over on a first date and not leave for six days is not a healthy way to start a relationship and may end up reinforcing your experience of abandonment.
This category of addiction actually comes in many varieties. Love addition tends to be more internal, more emotional and therefore harder to spot. I was a classic love addict. The love addict lives in fantasy and does not pay attention to reality and the cues. While there can be many causes, the most common is abandonment and intimacy issues. So then the child grows up learning how to self-sooth in other ways, such as with love and sex. An argument against love addiction is often the confusion over how two siblings who were parented the same way can turn out as one addict and one non-addict.
There is this concept called epigenetics in which the ribosomes on the DNA, combined with life experiences, can activate a gene to express those addictive characteristics. Why was I wasting hours on the phone listening to a crackhead with a tenth-grade education? Was I nuts? And, I was nuts, as it turned out. Or, at least, I had a huge blind spot in the area of sexual and romantic relationships. He was really torn up and broke into tears. Even though three weeks later he was sexting another woman, I was still trying to date him and going nuts with envy, as I scoured his Facebook page daily, trying to figure out if he was dating other women.
Some rock-bottom moments are subtler. My focus depleted, my professional demeanor became insecure and anxious. I found myself fantasizing and obsessing over her. My heart was racing as I first sat down in the meeting. Everyone in the room introduced themselves with their first name and their specific addiction. My therapist made me come. As I sat there sobbing, hiding under my hat and nervously picking the black polish off my nails, I felt sick to my stomach. Not so much to the sex part, as I was more of a serial monogamist than a promiscuous person. This is classic love-addict behavior.
Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you? Like me, Kristen was both terrified and compelled when she attended her first step meeting. The solution, for me, was a combination of cognitive therapy with a psychologist who specializes in sex and love addiction, as well as attending SLAA meetings, and a willingness to accept my patterns and vow to rewire my brain into a healthier way to live and love. This includes vowing to choose wisely, vetting your potential partner, making a list of your deal-breakers and past patterns to avoid, and spotting those glaring red flags.
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