This is why personal growth is so important in finding soulmates. We all have issues; issues can disrupt chemistry and how strong of a relationship we can hold in life. Timing includes taking the time to improve oneself and be in a stronger position later in life to support a deeper life partner connection.
Finally, a soulmate is a person we are mated to with a deep and honest sexual connection also. Since in reality, people try to force a person into a soulmate relationship before they know if they have a good sexual connection. Once sex is added to the equation, at times, it falls apart. When this is the case, you have a different type of relationship.
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Photo by Evangeline. Learn how to understand relationships better and how to find your soul mate. This hour-long video will step you through what a true relationship looks like and how to understand the dynamics of a relationship. This is more common than what you might think. Trying to force a soul companion to be a soul mate can at times end in a disaster. Our needs relative to sexuality is very complicated dance.
A soul companion is truly spiritually close to you; you know each other down to the soul level. Often same-sex soul companions will get confused since they feel this deep connection with certain friends and they might even feel a sexual edge. So for some people understanding there is this deeper connection with some people can also improve their same-sex relationships. Make no mistake soul companions are powerful connections. Once you remove the need to define soul companion as being your mate or sexual partner it truly opens you up to many special relationships.
Now you may ask how many soul companions can a person have.
More is certainly possible but probably is rare also, since it requires a special blending of nonjudgment and judgment to temper such a relationship. Understanding that there is this deep Soul Companion level truly helps to open up a deeper relationship. To remove the confusing deeper sexual overtones can actually free up two people to start again building up a more honest relationship.
In practice, a twin flame is a karmic relationship! People tend to seek a twin flame as an extra strong soulmate. The challenge within a twin flame relationship is to resolve out the karmic lessons involved in the relationship. The intense initial pull of twin flame relationships often fools two people into moving too fast with each other. Without moderation and hard work, most twin flame relationships do burn out. The first truth in how to find your life partner is to understand the nature of a soulmate. As a result, people often force the wrong person into fitting the soulmate mold.
Many people are running around trying to find a life partner, thinking they will automatically feel their soulmate, simply by how effortless it will be or by the intense connection they will feel. Unfortunately, our biology will often trick us into feeling another is a soulmate by focusing you in on the mate aspects of a relationship.
Our species does desire to continue onward, and as a result, biological chemistry can blind two people into falling into love for a shorter relationship for purposes of having children. A soulmate is more than just physical chemistry; it includes mind our stories and spiritual our flow chemistry also. However, at the beginning of many relationships, physical chemistry does tend to have the most powerful vote of the three aspects of our nature. Physical chemistry is only enough to get two people seven years along in their relationship Hence the 7-year itch.
To make the distance of 20 or more years, you truly need mind, body, and spirit all to agree on the chemistry. Additionally, relationships with soulmates are still a relationship. All relationships have issues, even the best ones. A soulmate relationship might have fewer problems than most relationships, but even a soulmate relationship will have its challenges. Our Tree of Love article will teach you about what comprises a relationship.
At different points of life, we look for different attributes to compliment us. Psychologically we change quite a bit in our maturing process every seven to nine years. As a result, the advice to find a soulmate does vary depending on where we are in life. Understand the variations of how we perceive and match to our soul partners over time does factor into how to find your soulmate.
A life partner compliments you. Your strength works with their strength. To live to your weakness is to find a person who compliments your weaknesses.
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Such a relationship is a co-dependent relationship. Co-Dependent relationships always burn out or move on in the end. Co-Dependency at first feels balanced, but the problem is as you change it spins out of control. So ironically for Co-Dependency to survive also means always to be staying within your weakness. We need to grow. Yes, we can focus on a weakness, to grow from that weakness. But never stay weak on purpose to keep a relationship going. That just comes at the cost of your own life. Also to keep a person in a relationship for the sake of a relationship is a weakness that destroys a relationship.
Our soulmates will help us work out of our issues, help us acknowledge them and then find healthy ways to work with our flaws to always be growing.
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A life partner will never hold us back in our issues. A soulmate will allow us to make small mistakes but then will help you avoid large problems. We need to learn from our mistakes and grow. We think we know who compliments us and then judge others who would be our best mate. Ironically people are blind to the missing aspects of their soul and issues.
This is why dating services do such a poor job using algorithms to find a partner for others. The harder points of life are when we judge our partners the most. Also if you happen to be the midst of a great change such as adolescence, quarter-life crisis or midlife crisis, everything is shifting too fast to make sense of any of it.
No one can know who their soulmate when they are in the middle of a crisis. Acceptance of a soulmate comes after the crisis has passed after you release all measurements of who is best for you. You cannot measure clothing for a child as if they were an adult! Release trying to find prospective partners or to hold existing partners based on measurements judgment especially if you are in the middle of great change.
In the end, without awareness, a person is moving blindly in their life. Part of awareness is to explore and to be willing to meet and talk to different people to both understand chemistry and how we react to others. Awareness lets us work to our essence. Awareness, as a practice, is about connection. To make sure that when we do find a deep connection, that the connection is complete of mind, body, and spirit.
Without awareness equally from both parties, a relationship is blind and only one-sided at best and will fail. Relative to a midlife crisis or any major change point. This is required to help them sort out who they are and how to change. However, since awareness is required to complete the connection to your soul partner, this also means that a midlife transformation process or a larger life crisis very easily disrupts the bond between partners.
During this period if the partner tries to reestablish the bond, the person in midlife transformation could just move further away, in an attempt to keep their focus on their growth. It will appear the person in midlife crisis is selfish, and often seemingly childish in how to try to reclaim their space. Understand a person in crisis or midlife change has their attention focused on what they feel are required changes in their transformation. A person in midlife change will move away or fight back to reclaim their space from anyone , including soul partners, who gets in the way of this personal reconfiguration process.
This is why midlife transformation can and does break soul partners apart. One person needs to change while the partner resists the change. Once one is patient enough to accept their life, relationships improve dramatically. On average, if you are patient, aware, centered and living in a decent sized community, you will come across a deep life partner once every three years. This will vary of course from person to person. But it seems to be a good baseline that is accurate if you work with the teachings I offer.
Non Judgement and kindness working to essence is a powerful path to explore, and it has some nice benefits regarding improved relationships. Once the lesson has been learnt, physical separation usually occurs. Life Partner : A companion, a friend, a stable and secure individual who you can lean on, trust and depend on to help you through life. There is a mutual feeling of love and respect and you are both in sync with each others needs and wants. Everyone wants to meet their Soulmate.
We have many Soulmates in this life but their purpose is all the same- they are here to challenge and awaken us so our soul can evolve into a higher state of consciousness. Our Soulmates always arrive when we are ready for them and not a moment sooner.
They arrive when we are ready to learn the lessons that we were destined to fulfill. Soulmate relationships are often not forever , this is because sometimes the relationship can be too intense or there is a certain karmic energy to the relationship that sees it come to a close once the necessary lessons have been learnt.
Regardless of this, you will always feel a strong, energetic connection or a past life history together. Many of us spend years obsessing about meeting a Soulmate, but fail to notice what we are really asking for. When we ask for a Soulmate we are really asking to grow and develop in consciousness, and not understanding this can sometimes block the energy from coming to us.
You need to have shared goals, mutually agreeable uses of free time, etc before communication and compromise can even be a thing.
Also, none of it matters if both parties don't want to make it work and stick it through. When I met my now-husband, it was clear that he is - he's loyal and monogamous and never gave me any pause about committing. We've been together awhile, yet he always makes me feel like he wants to be with me. I'm admittedly an irritable person. I'm outgoing and enjoy being around people, but am easily annoyed, especially in 1-on-1 situations. I have honestly never felt annoyed with my boyfriend, and trust me, he tries to annoy me.
That has never happened to me before. I'm just comfortable around him. He allows me to be myself, while giving me emotional support and keeping me laughing when things get stressed. I've felt like I've known him forever since the first day meeting him. He feels like family. Sacrifices Felt Worth It. I had zero doubts about the person.
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My gut feeling was "this is the one". I was willing to do things I wouldn't normally otherwise do to maintain the relationship, like move somewhere that I didn't know anybody and find a new job, totally uproot my life. I knew it would be worth it. Been married for 5 years. Our first disagreement didn't turn into a real argument. We just talked through it rationally. It's the least stressful relationship romantic or otherwise I've ever been in.
I was actively polishing off his large chocolate peanut butter sundae, after finishing my own lady-like small vanilla with fresh strawberries, and I said, "oh, I'm sorry, I eating all of your dessert! I hadn't noticed and he never mentioned it until he needed to to make me feel better.